If I wanted to be succinct (when do I ever want that?) I would say, simply, I want a big family because I come from a big family. I am one of four kids and my partner is one of three. Some of our siblings have partners and had children before us and we all like to drink so family gatherings are always rowdy and busy. Really, this post is about how wonderful our families are!
I’ve always been really close to my family and loved the fact that there are lots of us. My childhood was lovely; there was always someone to watch my stupid plays, play a game with me, hear me sing terribly or listen to me read. I never felt lonely; even though we weren’t together all the time just knowing they are about means you never feel alone. Holidays were great because we would spend days swimming in the sea, walking and playing games together. Christmas was always really exciting – I used to love sleeping on the floor in my older sisters’ room because my Grandad would sleep in my room! And we always made a fuss of birthdays too, we’d all gather in my parent’s room first thing for presents and in the evening there was always singing and cake. We all got together for birthdays almost every time right up until I went to uni (I was the first one to move a significant distance away!) and we still do when we can.
And having siblings has just got better and better as we’ve all become adults. Watching my sister’s kids grow up is so special, seeing my brother play at a festival was amazing and giving my parents their seventh grandchild felt pretty good! Every year we go camping in the summer and whenever we get together there are so many laughs.
I think one of the things that connected B and I so well is the fact that his family are the same; they are very close and have a good time together. The fact that we both understood how incredibly important family is and how lucky we are to have such great people around us seemed to make us closer. We go to B’s nan’s house every week and TM’s older cousins love to fuss over him. We are often getting together for dinners and try to have trips away as a family when we can.
Having a big family, for me, has meant ready-made best friends, drinking buddies, people to tell you when you’re being a twat and plenty of shoulders to cry on. It’s people who love you unconditionally no matter how strange or irritating you are and who you can laugh hysterically with over ridiculous things. Yes, Christmas is bloody expensive and there’s ALWAYS a birthday present to buy but there’s also multiple small people to cuddle, tons of babysitters and a whole clan who hold you up. I really want to add to that and create my own sizeable tribe so, hopefully, my children will always feel they have somebody to enjoy life with and someone to pick them up when they’re down.