It’s been a while, eh?! I wrote this post about three months ago and never got around to popping it on this here blog. Life is pretty hectic with two little ones and while I occasionally write the odd note on my phone, I haven’t quite found the spare time to publish anything. Since I last wrote my eldest turned 2, we’ve had a gorgeous Chrismas together and all of a sudden it’s a new year and we have a two year old and a 6 month old…madness! This is a list of realisations I’ve come to since having our lovely little JB and becoming a family of four. I’m sure other parents of more than one child will understand some of these.
Ten truths about baby number two:
- Inevitably your second child is left to cry more often. I can’t physically split myself into two so when I’m solo parenting and getting my toddler in and out of the car or changing his nappy, his brother sometimes has to cry. This is probably the most guilt-inducing thing about having more than one child. There will be times when they both need you and you can only tend to one at a time.
- You feel as though the little(r!) one has always been part of your family; you struggle to remember what it was like before they arrived.
- You trust yourself more. You know to follow your instincts and how to ignore unwanted advice. This is a gift; you don’t need to waste your time worrying that maybe Great Aunt Mabel is right and you’re making a rod for your own back when you respond to your baby in the middle of the night. You feel more able to stand by your own choices and do what’s right for your family.
- When people offer to help you are much quicker to accept it. Grandma wants to come over for the day? Excellent, how soon can she arrive? Your friend offers to bring food round? Great, you’ll ask him to pick up a pint of milk on the way!
- Love is infinite and you appreciate that even more keenly now.
- Time seems to go faster than ever and you are willing it to slow down. Each size of clothing they grow out of breaks your heart a little and you are much slower to do things like move them out of the Moses basket. You aren’t quite so keen for them to meet milestones as you were with your first. You understand how fleeting the newborn days are and how quickly your baby changes and you try to appreciate as much as possible.
- Little things take on less importance – does it really matter if the vacuuming doesn’t get done today? You don’t have much time to stress about anything other than keeping two little people healthy and happy.
- Celebrating small victories is how you get through the tough days (especially when you’re in the 2 under 2 club!) and you will take any win… both children napping at the same time is basically the holy grail.
- You look back on the newborn days of your first child with rose tinted glasses… being able to breastfeed in front of a Netflix box set with no time pressures or small human to entertain? Sounds blissful.
- You reach peak levels of exhaustion and happiness. Just when you are throwing your hands up in the air in frustration you see your toddler kissing the baby gently on the cheek or catch the youngest smiling as they watch their older sibling playing. And it’s all so worth it.