10 truths about baby number 2

It’s been a while, eh?! I wrote this post about three months ago and never got around to popping it on this here blog. Life is pretty hectic with two little ones and while I occasionally write the odd note on my phone, I haven’t quite found the spare time to publish anything. Since I last wrote my eldest turned 2, we’ve had a gorgeous Chrismas together and all of a sudden it’s a new year and we have a two year old and a 6 month old…madness! This is a list of realisations I’ve come to since having our lovely little JB and becoming a family of four. I’m sure other parents of more than one child will understand some of these. Continue reading

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What type of parent do you want to be?

There comes a time when you have to consider what kind of parent you want to be. I read this funny post by my wonderful friend Lucy at Occupation:(M)other about all the different parenting styles and techniques that she’s employed in her three years as a mother and it got me reflecting on what kind of parents we are and what we will be in the future. There are so many labels and groups, countless experts and theories, and I think these labels are unhelpful and unnecessary in many ways. But when it comes to ‘discipline’ and the like, you do have to make decisions about how you’ll handle unwanted behaviour and what approach you’ll take. I don’t think I know many people who follow a really prescriptive approach whether that be Gina Ford, Jo Frost, gentle parenting or any other sort – most of us pick and choose the things that suit us and appeal to our instincts. Not forgetting, of course, that it all depends on the child. You might have wanted to put your kid on the naughty step and then realise that it hasn’t made one single bit of difference to their behaviour… so could be time to rethink!

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Reflections of a mother (one year in…)

I suppose that title is a little misleading as, like many people, I felt like a mother long before I actually gave birth. You feel a huge amount of love while you’re pregnant and I think a shift starts straight away. You stop making decisions based purely on your own wants and needs and you start considering your unborn baby: this unselfishness (is that a word?!) continues and increases once your baby is born. But, for the purposes of this, my son is now a year old and I thought it was a good moment to reflect on the things I have learnt in my first year of being a mother.

Let’s not talk about sleep

When the fuck did everyone start to get so opinionated about sleep?! It seems to be the first thing everybody asks me; ‘How is his sleep? Are you in a routine?’ The honest answer is; he sleeps. Sometimes a lot at night, sometimes not so much. A routine is something I intend to implement at some stage but it’s pretty pointless now as I tend to just let him sleep when he is tired.

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